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    November 04

    欲望与幸福

    前天坐公共汽车,见座上有一少妇抱着小孩,小孩约一周岁,大致调皮些,就搂着车上的扶手玩。因为车上人较多,小妇大概怕小孩搞到其抓着扶手的乘客,就小声喝着小孩“真坏,太调皮了”,并把他搂实。小孩被他妈骂后,两手反捂着双眼,动也不动,作哭泣状。站在旁的他爸就指着他说,他哭了;他妈见此,侧头又想安排他。不管他还好,此一举动,反令他大声哭了起来。他妈于是把他反抱着扒在肩上哄他,他爸忙着拿出一个柑给他。未几,小孩手抓住柑后也就止啼了。他妈顺势又把他抱放到大腿上,小孩开始了玩柑。我在旁边,看着小孩玩耍—被骂—哭泣—玩耍,这是多么短暂之间的转换,却又与本叔华之“欲望—痛苦—幸福—无聊—欲望”轮回理论多么的契合。或者,小孩太单纯了,他的生命的要求仅仅是吃和玩,除此之外并不需顾及其它,所以它是如何的容易满足,从痛苦的哭泣到开心的玩耍,这一切换就能在瞬间完成。关于欲望由此带来人生的痛苦,看来古今中外的认识倒挺很一致,从中国的“知足者常乐”、佛教倡导的禁欲主义到本叔华的哲学,虽然表述不一,但都无不揭示了一个相同的哲理:欲望是痛苦的根源。

    在车上,令我不由联想起一则流传很广的故事,在中国西部大开发中,一队来自东部经济发达城市的人到西部考察,见到一放羊娃娃,就问他:“娃娃,你放羊来干什么的?”娃娃回答:“攒钱,大了娶媳妇”。“娶媳妇来干什么的?”“生娃娃”。“生娃娃来干什么的?”“放羊”。“娃娃放羊又来干什么的呀?”“大了娶媳妇”。东部的人笑了。

    东部的人笑的是放羊娃娃的理想太简单了,在他的心眼中只剩放羊、娶媳妇、生娃娃,与东部生活中充满的是高楼、汽车、网络等等相比,是何等天渊之别,进而笑的是西部还如何闭塞与落后,应令人感慨万分。其实,若不以物质条件作比较,而以幸福指数作指标,放羊娃的幸福指数无疑要高多了。有羊,就能长大;长大了,自然就会有女人;有女人,当然也就有了娃娃。而所谓经济发达地区的人,对比于牧羊娃似是很有幸福感,其实其痛苦指数高多了。疯长的楼价,挑几张梯可能都够不着;今天看着股市开心的笑,明天转眼变成一个大窟窿;买部车上路威风,却又塞车在路上还不如跑步快。这样的生存形态,又怎么不会重复本叔华的理论呢?再换一个角度看看,就生存方式而言,东部的人过的日子又何尝不是简单地重复着放羊、娶媳妇、生娃娃的人生模式呢?仅仅的区别只不过是放牧的羊不同而已,社会先进了,放牧的可能是一部机器、一台电脑,也可能是一部汽车等等,因行业不同而异罢了。

    所以,再想想,老汉无语而下车了。

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